I intended to write this before I left on my road trip, but I just didn’t get around to it. The reason is that although I knew I was due a punishment, I did not receive it until 1 am the night before we left. At that time I was too exhausted to write about it. So, here I am almost a week later on the tail end of my trip finally writing about my punishment.
It was over something stupid. I guess that is always the case. We bickered all week long, and on Friday the pattern continued as we tried to make last minute hotel plans for our trip. The final straw came when he… well here is a controversy. I say he yelled, he says he raised his voice. Either way, his voice was louder than I liked and after a week full of issues, I yelled back. Neither of us debate that point. I said, “WHY ARE YOU YELLING AT ME?” Then I left because I wanted to prevent any further outbursts. It was too late though, the damage was done.
One of the inherent inequalities in our relationship is that when he messes up and uh “raises his voice” to me, he just has to live with a grumpy girlfriend. When I do the same, I get a sore bottom. I did, though not until the next night. I guess he wanted to torture me. That and real life got in the way.
So my question to you is, how do you think situations like this should be handled? It works for us to have that inequality but does it for others? Are there some of you who think that if the person in charge loses control that the other person should get a pass? I’m really curious to hear how others feel.
I’m off on a road trip with my boyfriend this week folks. As much as I’m hoping to have some spanking stories to relate, I fear it is going to be all business! While I’m gone, you may want to amuse yourself with a wonderful blog I’ve been enjoying: Lowewood Academy .
This is full of great writing by some personal friends of mine as well as folks I’ve never met. If you enjoy the British school fantasy, this is the site for you. It is both contemporary and classic and the writing is fantastic. I read it every day and I think you all should do the same!
I had a problem with semantics today. You see, after I got out of the shower I needed to deal with my hair. Curly hair is a curse and a blessing but it isn’t something that can be left to it’s own devices for very long. The only problem was I could not find my hairbrush. After a brief look around the house I found it. In my boyfriend’s hand. “I need that” I said to him. “Come and get it” he said to me.
Well, he did give it to me. Repeatedly. Boy did that hurt! Every time I asked him to stop and just let me have the hairbrush I got a particularly hard swat. “Let me have it” is certainly a loaded phrase! I did get a brief reprieve in order to take care of my hair. My boyfriend didn’t want to be seen walking around with a frizzy headed hair beast just because he wanted to get some spanking in. Unfortunately I did not get the brush put away quickly enough.
So it was that I found myself back in the living room being smacked. Have I mentioned that hairbrushes hurt? I think they are probably the most severe implements of all. School paddles are a close second, though. As it turns out he was teasing me. Giving me a taste of what is to come. I am now afraid!
Do you know what today is? Today is Love Our Lurkers day! This is the second anniversary of the event started by miss Bonnie of My Bottom Smarts. You see, on every blog there are many many more readers than posters. That’s just a fact. I know there are more members of my site than are posting on the blog, and even more who don’t subscribe to my site but who come and look at my blog.
So, today is for you guys! I want to thank everyone for reading and enjoying my blog. It’s been very important for me to have a place to express myself. Knowing that there are others who can read and relate to my experiences makes a big difference. If there weren’t readers there wouldn’t be much reason to write.
If you have been lurking but not posting, I want to encourage you to say hello today. Tell us about yourself. What do you enjoy about spanking? What do you look for in a spanking blog, or spanking pay site? I don’t bite, I promise. If you have anything to tell me -good or bad, I’d like to hear from you!
Or Both? I am enjoying the discussion that my previous question is generating, so I thought I’d throw this out too!
When I first got involved in the world of spanking my primary interest was with reading stories. I started at Laura’s site and branched out from there. I enjoyed all types of stories and continue to enjoy a broad range of spanking fiction. There are some statistics that suggest that when it comes to erotic content women prefer stories while men prefer videos and images.
I enjoy videos as well. This may be obvious given my current occupation. I don’t know that I have a strong preference for one or the other, as long as the story or video is well done. I don’t enjoy any erotica that is half-assed. When the powers that be and I were first discussing doing a website, one of the ideas we put out there was a story section. As you now know what we decided to do instead was a blog. Although there are occasionally stories on here, I am not really a fiction writer.
So, what do you prefer? Why? If you like stories, what is your favorite style? What elements are important in making a good video? I am looking forward to hearing from you!
I was recently talking to my boyfriend about the difference between a naughty girl and a bad girl. After much discussion we settled on a definition centering around intent. Naughty girls are choosing to be a certain way, a way of thinking whereas bad girls simply engage in wrong actions on occasion. My boyfriend felt that both types of girls need to be dealt with differently. He also assured me that I embody both types of girls on different occasions.
My question for you all is: how do you define naughty or bad? Are they the same? Are we splitting hairs? If they are not the same, do you deal with both the same or differently?
Personally I think they need to be dealt with differently, but in a similar fashion. Both require correction, but it should be aimed at fostering different attitudes. After all, you don’t want to punish a naughty girl too severely and risk turning her into a good girl do you?