I’m sick again folks. Isn’t it exciting? I know I’m so thrilled about it… So this may not be my best writing ever but I’m still going to try to give you all something. I’ve got implements (or lack of implements) on the brain lately. Sorry for anyone who is bored by this. I’m sure I’ll get over it sometime soon.
Anyway, the implement question I’m thinking about today is what is more appealing to feel, visually, etc.? Also, is this compatible with the ethics of spankos? I’ve always enjoyed certain leathers. I love the smell. I also love the feel of really high quality smooth leather (like The London Tanners products) when I’ve touched it with my hands. I usually dislike the feel on my bottom a lot more, but that’s the case with all implements I think. There are some people who are uncomfortable with leather and other animal products, though. I’m not one of these necessarily though I like to know that animals were killed humanely and used for more than just their skin. The wastefulness inherent in a lot of these types of business is disturbing to me.
I usually don’t like wood as much. I don’t find it as attractive visually and it doesn’t have the same evocative smell. Mainly, it just hurts! There are a few exceptions there. Paddles made out of exotic woods almost always make me go “ooooh” They are fun to touch and to look at. These are my favorites. Unfortunately I’m also really conflicted about anything made from exotic wood. This is because most exotic woods are also endangered woods. Part of me says that the last thing our environment needs is hedonistic spankos making paddles out of these endangered woods. Of course there are “green” options, and trees die whether or not we chop them down. It’s possible to get wood that has been reclaimed in this way.
I’ve never found a paddle vendor who is 100% certain of where their wood is coming from. Even non endangered woods are heading that direction if we don’t start being a little bit more ethical with our harvesting methods. If I had talent for making this stuff I think I might start a company based on a “green” business model. But I don’t. All I have is the vision. Any takers to help me here?
I was talking to my boyfriend about this post today and he said a few things that I thought would be worth stating as well. 1. When you think of leather implements it’s useful to keep in mind that leather is- skin. We all know that leather can be very fearsome in the right/ wrong hands. Also remember that even rattan canes which are highly feared and respected by many spankees are not as hard as bone. Which brings us to point number 2. Behind the skin on a hand is bone. Bone is hard. Bone hurts very much! Most wood is harder than bone, but when comparing leather implements to hands actually in many cases the hand wins out in terms of oomph.
My boyfriend’s view is that the biggest difference between hand spankings and spankings with an implement is not the heaviness of the implement but the fact that when someone gives a hand spanking he or she is by definition going to feel it as well. He believes that this is what causes some tops to go lighter when delivering this type of discipline. The solution, according to him, is simply for everyone to start giving out more hand spankings and building up a tolerance. After all, nobody wants to say, “My Top is so wimpy he can’t give a hard hand spanking. He has to resort to implements instead!”
You know, I’m really tired of people telling me that they don’t like watching hand spankings because they are just too wimpy. This may be a bit of a rant. You see, I think the people that say that hand spankings are wimpy are either Tops who are trying to irritate subs, or people who have never actually been spanked. I get this a lot being a model because of course many of the people who enjoy my videos are people who never have and likely never will act on their spanking interests. That’s ok, I don’t think people should ever have to do anything they don’t want to.
Yet, I do get very annoyed when I hear one of these people tell me that such and such a spanking was not hard. This happens with more than just hand spankings but is especially prevalent with hand spankings. They tell me I am a cry baby (I am). That’s not the point, though. Have any of you ever felt a hard swat from Coach Daniel’s hand? How about my boyfriend? I know you haven’t felt one from my boyfriend… anyway…
These two especially I believe deserve their own implement category. Seriously. I can tell story after story about how I tolerated certain straps and paddles better than certain hands. As with any other implement, it depends on many factors. So the next time you’re tempted to say, “It was just a hand spanking” remember that there is at least one spankee out there who will tell you there is no such thing!
There is an ongoing debate among those of us who do real discipline as to whether or not making the proceedings public has any value. After all, when doing a spanking scene adding a witness or three can make the scene much hotter. The question however, is does it do any good in terms of actually correcting behavior if you involve other people in your discipline? I know for some people the added embarrassment may do some good, but personally I don’t see the point.
Real punishment and discipline is something *very* intimate to me. For the longest time I could never even discuss it with anyone else. There have been a few occasions where I’ve gotten into real trouble with someone else, or with someone else around, and it just really messed with my head. Similarly, I don’t like to be around when other people are getting punished. Kinky scenes where someone is being “punished” are different. I’m definitely a voyeur. But, just as I don’t want to intrude on people’s intimate sex lives, I’m not comfortable having punishment intruded on.
This has been on my mind a lot lately because a lot of people have been asking me questions about my home life. Yes, I do eventually share the information I’m comfortable with here when I get into trouble. I don’t always share every detail, though. I also don’t really enjoy being interrogated about every last moment of real punishment sessions.
Are there other people out here to feel the same way, or am I seriously weird?
How many of you are fans of Niki Flynn? For those of you who aren’t as knowledgeable about Niki she is another spanking model who is known worldwide for her edgy work. Her debut as a model was with Lupus Pictures and she has taken off from there! I even did some on camera work with her in the movie Conspiracy. She was my first and only (so far) on screen lover.
Anyway, Niki Flynn has now written a book! It is a wonderful read and I highly recommend it. I think there is something in it that can reach everyone but those of us in the spanking community are certainly in the right category to enjoy it! I read this book in one sitting because it was so well done I could not put it down. Especially the part about me. Just kidding! Anyway, if you’re looking to find this book Amazon is a wonderful way to do it. Alternately you can ask your local bookstore to order it!
What is the name you ask? Dances with Werewolves is the name. I really cant speak highly enough of it, so just go check it out.
I posted this over on WSF a while ago, but I’m still thinking about it and thought I would see what you all think. I want to change my hair. I’m sick of it. It’s been basically the same for about 10 years, and I think you can imagine that for me that is more or less… forever.
I’m not sure if it can be changed and stay long like it is so that it is interesting, or if I need to lose some length to make a fun change! So, what is your preference dear readers and fans? Do you prefer long hair because “women all look better with long hair?” I know my boyfriend does. Long hair has always been his preference. This is why I never cut it sooner. He’s now said I can, although I don’t think he’s happy about it. That’s actually one of the reasons I’m conflicted.
So what do you think? It’s time for a change. I’m jut not sure how to do it!