So, some of you may have heard through the grapevine, but I’m involved in a new project! Don’t worry, I’m not forsaking my modeling, and you’re going to keep hearing from me on this blog. But, now there is another place you might hear from me- over at The London Tanners.
Some of you may remember that Ian and I were engaged at the last Shadowlane party. Well, we still aren’t getting married, but we are combining our forces. I am now the official spokesmodel for the London Tanners. So, what does this mean? Essentially it means that I’ve seen first hand the quality of Ian’s (and now he has a new apprentice as well ) work. I think he is incredibly skilled and we are very lucky as a community to have him.
The other thing it means is that I will now be answering customer inquiries about London Tanners. If you have questions about his various products I’m the girl to go to. I encourage you all to check out Ian’s announcement about this yourself!
I’m uninspired today. I want to post here, but I’m out of ideas tonight. So, I think the solution might be to open it up to you. What do you want to know?
Feel free to ask about me as a person, or my videos. I’ll be really interested to see what you all come up with!
Well, not as many people chimed in as I was hoping, but I have answers to those of you who asked!
Norman and Mr. Kelly,- my favorite position to be spanked in is over the knee. I’ve always found it to be the most intimate. As far as what implement I like the most, it’s definitely a tricky question. I guess the answer is probably the cane, because it is a different type of pain than most other spanking implements. I think I tolerate it better.
Mr. Kelly, I usually sleep naked at night, although I do have some cute PJs for laying around the house in!
Jeoffry, my favorite ice cream flavor changes around a bit. I love chocolate, and cookie dough, as well as mint chocolate chip. I didn’t really have a teddy bear as a kid, but I did have stuffed dog named Godiva.
If anyone else has questions, I’m always ready to answer!
I’ve been giving some thought recently to the real life dynamics I’ve encountered since I got involved with spanking. By far the most popular dynamic is not one that involves real discipline, but instead one that involves “punishment” for mutually enjoyable offenses. This can take two major turns, one is where the bottom purposely commits “crimes” to get “punished” by the Top. Both parties generally know that this is the case, and play along with each other. The other popular option is role play.
Role play is one of my favorite activities. I love it because it allows me to experience a variety of situations and dynamics that I otherwise would not be able to achieve. For instance, I have never been part of a school system that has corporal punishment, but through role playing scenarios I’ve been able to experience what it might have been like. I also never received spankings from those in other positions of authority, but role play has allowed me to experience everything from domestic settings, to office and camp.
If it wasn’t for lovers of role play, there probably wouldn’t be much in the way of spanking videos to offer, or at least not variety. In the future I’m hoping to experience a variety of other scenarios, including historical scenarios. I believe Jeoffry once posted an idea for a spanko version of Alice in Wonderland. That could be fun!
I made reference in my previous entry to bottoms who commit offenses on purpose to get “punished.” I think this is one of the most common dynamics between real life spankos. After all, they both enjoy spanking, but usually in order for there to be a spanking, there has to be a reason. There are very few people who enjoy spanking purely for the physical sensation. There are some, though. Guess what my next post is likely going to be about? hehe
This isn’t something that is as natural for me as the role playing dynamic, but it’s something I’ve encountered a lot. A friend of mine even invented a word for it- “funishment.” This is something I’ve done on occasion, usually in situations where it was made very clear that my boyfriend wanted an excuse to spank me. For instance, we often play board games or go out and do competitive things such as bowling. Depending on the mood he is in, either winning or losing could spell doom for my bottom! This is an very easy catch 22 since I’m never allowed to throw a game just because I don’t want a spanking.
I’ve also been in situations with play partners where I’ve been “punished” for not doing cleaning properly etc. I think this can be a fun dynamic, but it also makes me nervous because it can cross over into that “real punishment” feeling.
Sensory play is the kind of play that people do when they enjoy spankings just for the sensation of being spanked. I think most spankos can get into this category in some sense, but it tends to overlap most with people who also do other forms of BDSM.
Some people, like Kailee, really enjoy pain for it’s own sake. They can take a lot and hardly bat an eyelash. Some of these folks can even have orgasms from pain. I guess the common term for this type of person is “masochist.” Obviously, masochists are sensory players in a big way. I have a lot of respect for them. I am also not one of them.
There is another type of sensory player of which I am, though. Unfortunately for me, it’s not something I get to indulge in very often. If I am spanked slowly starting light and building up over time, I can very easily get into an endorphin high which is very pleasurable. This type of spanking would include a very slow warm up with a hand or light leather implement and include a lot of rubbing, scratching etc. Although many of the people who see my work classify me as a wimp, I can actually take quite a lot when I get into a space like this. In fact, afterward I am sometimes left wondering why I am so sore when the whole experience was so nice!
Although many people have fantasies about it, a lot of people discover that they aren’t actually wired for it. It’s hard for an adult person to accept correction and punishment for mistakes, especially when the person delivering the punishment is also a fallible human being. Still, almost all spanking erotica is about punishment. Even those who do role play and funishment style spanking are playing to the inherent kinkiness of adults punishing each other.
For me, this is a core part of my fetish. I’ve always had a desire to be in a relationship with real punishment, and nowadays I’m living it. But, as I mentioned above, it isn’t always easy going. I am still very likely to argue my way through the conversation, unless I really feel I’ve messed up. It’s funny because I often can see situations where I might be in trouble, but as soon as I am told that I’m going to be punished I find myself panicking and trying to find an alternative.
Punishment usually isn’t the most severe thing we do. Usually by the time we get to it, I’m in a pretty heavy mental place anyway. A severe spanking isn’t always as effective as a few sharp blows to reinforce a message. There are some notable exceptions, but those may be for a different update!
I’ve noticed in the comments that people seem to want to know about what implements I like and dislike a lot. That came up twice in my recent Ask Bailey post, too. The short answer is, I am a wimp and don’t like to be spanked with much of anything in the moment. But, I certainly have a lot of experience with various implements. I thought I might start a series of posts about the various implements and how I feel about them.
Are there any implements you guys specifically want to hear about? Here is a list of everything I can think of ever having been spanked with:
hand
belt
tawse
various leather paddles
various leather straps
cane
birch
wooden spoon
rubber spatula
rice paddle
cat toy
various hairbrushes
bath brush
rope
slipper (traditional)
shoe (mens boot)
flip flops
switches
various floggers
school paddle
various small wooden paddles
red meanie
remote control
ruler
yardstick
carpet beater
riding crop
lexan paddles
books
That’s all I can think of. I can’t promise that I will get through the whole list, but it seems like it will provide a lot of options to pick from. Please speak up if there is one you really are curious about!
The first implement I want to write about is the hairbrush. Being spanked with a hairbrush is one of my earliest and most ingrained spanko fantasies. I think the reason for this is because it is associated with traditional domestic discipline. It also seems like something that might sting but isn’t really horrible. I never in a million years would have thought that the most severe implement around is a wooden hairbrush.
Not all hairbrushes are created equal, of course. Plastic hairbrushes, and some wooden ones, are generally hollow. They may make a lot of noise and they may sting a lot, but they don’t fall into the very severe category. Maybe this is what people are thinking of when they think of hairbrushes as a traditional implement in the home. Mason Pearson hairbrushes are iconic in the UK, and they are the hollow plastic kind.
Solid wooden hairbrushes are in their own league, though. I simply have no tolerance for this type of pain. They are definitely on my list of most feared implements. It is also is one of the implements that leaves me the most sore, I think because there is a lot of weight concentrated in a single area. I have one antique hairbrush from a particularly generous fan that is made out of ebony. Ebony is so dense that it sinks in water. I’m glad that ebony is no longer being made into hairbrushes because fewer and fewer bottoms are in danger of encountering it’s horrible bite!
This is by far the most severe implement per swat I’ve ever felt. It’s also one of the scarier implements to receive because I know with 100% certainty that if my spanker misjudges his aim just a little bit it could go from serious pain to serious damage. Also, because I have a tendency to move around when I’m being spanked, the likelihood that the paddle might land wrong is greatly increased. So, it takes much more will power for me to hold still.
The pain itself is stunning. I feel this way to an extent with every implement because I tend to forget how much it hurts. But, the school paddle will literally take my breath away. When I do find it again you can be sure that the noise that comes out is going to be loud and pained. Yeah, I know, I always scream. But, I think I scream the loudest with this one.
The only good thing I can say about the school paddle is that it leaves really cool marks. I think the bullseye bruises are extremely unique, and I do love marks. I used to mark dramatically from every type of spanking, but nowadays the school paddle is the only thing that consistently marks me. If I have to endure that kind of pain, I definitely think I deserve to have something to show for it!
