I went to a birthday party last night for my friend. This particular party was filled primarily filled with bottoms. We had a lot of fun activities planned for the evening including cake, ice cream, movies and pajamas. But, no birthday celebration is complete without birthday spankings and this is not something we overlooked.

I had thought that we would probably all spank her with our hands, but my friend received a pervertable birthday gift. Another of our friends helpfully gave her an entire set of wooden cooking spoons. As you can probably imagine, we wasted no time passing out the spoons and making sure that everyone had one.

Then the spanking started. The spoons were different shapes and sizes and I found it pretty fascinating to see the different effects up close. Usually I am on the receiving end and it doesn’t really do to watch! I can tell you that shape really does make a difference. The slightly off balance spoons seemed to get a much bigger reaction than the regular, evenly shaped ones.

All I can say is,I’m glad it wasn’t my birthday!

Do your fantasies lie more in consensual romantic spanking or “real” disciplinary spanking? I fall into the “real spanking” category,and it’s part of why I get away with being such a wimp. I used to worry that I couldn’t really be into spanking if I wasn’t into pain,but ultimately came to the decision that a girl who is being punished isn’t supposed to like it.

Yet, I occasionally get comments from people who are either put off by my reactions because they think I can’t take very much, or they think I’m not really kinky and am just accepting a pay check. Let me tell you,neither are true. I have never used a safeword, and while I would if the situation really called for it, I don’t intend to. Usually I take whatever I am given. Am I happy about it? No. A girl who is being punished isn’t supposed to like it.

Does that mean I’m not really kinky? I don’t think so. My darkest fantasies tell me otherwise. I very clearly have a need for this. The fact that I kick and cry when it comes down to it doesn’t change that. What do you think?

Guess who has another cold? That’s right, me. Why is it that whenever I feel the strongest need to play I am sick? Usually if I am very ill I know better than to try to act on any spanking activities. But, sometimes when I feel a little bit icky but am not terribly sick I might be likely to try to push it. Whether or not I am allowed to depends on circumstances, I think.

For instance, I have gone to shoots when I was mildly sick, but I have a pretty powerful incentive to show up for shoots. Also, I know that at the end of a shoot I will have an opportunity to rest. I would never go to a shoot if I was more than a little bit sick, though, and I have occasionally had to cancel a shoot due to my health.

Play is another matter, though. I’d probably be happy to play even if I had a small cold, but my boyfriend is pretty conservative about it. He worries about turning something small into something big by adding trauma to a weakened system. Plus, I guess it is unpleasant for him to spank a girl who can’t stop sniffling or coughing. I can understand his thinking, but it does make me sad at times.

Where do you draw the line? Are you ever too sick to spank?

When people think of spankings, usually there is a standard set of implements that goes with different types of spankings. At home you have domestic things like belts, hairbrushes, wooden spoons. School scenarios usually involve paddles or canes. There are others, but I think you get the point.

In a prior post I listed every implement I could remember being spanked with. Some of them were a bit odd, such as shoes, rope, cat toys, TV remotes. I have to admit that I rather enjoy the unusual implements that pop up when you’re looking for something. I’m also a bit surprised at times by how painful innocuous household items can be. I think it adds a bit of variety, and that is always fun. There are definitely some people out there who expect spanking to be serious business at all times, but what can I say? I like it fun occasionally.

What is the most unusual thing you’ve been spanked with? Does it bug you to have your Top go for the TV remote, or does it make it more fun?

Real Spankings has a DVD devoted entirely to tears. Apparently, it’s fairly rare for a spanking model to cry on camera. Some companies even pay more for tears because they are so elusive. There are a lot of theories about why this is. One of the biggest ones is that for models who aren’t inherently kinky, they have to shut down and “gut through it” in order to cope with the pain. I think this is probably true of many people. Internalization can really help get through a painful experience.

I’m the opposite. I cry and yell (yeah, I know you probably know that already). Some people tell me it’s wonderful, some people complain and think I can’t take a very hard spanking because I react big. I think my tolerance is somewhere in the middle. I don’t take the hardest, but I don’t take the lightest either. If anything, my spankers are sometimes likely to back off not because I tell them to, but because they are freaked out by my reactions on some level. But, to a certain extent, my tears are a way to process the pain. The reactions help me get through it. There is freedom in being able to scream as loud as you can. I like that.

Ironically, sometimes the hardest spankings are the ones I don’t cry for. Perhaps that’s because they often require more control on my part in order to stay safe. For some reason I always find that vaguely dissatisfying.

I got a spanking the other day. It was nice, because I haven’t had much chance to do a long drawn out scene for a while. You know, the kind that start slow and actually allow you to adjust and acclimate a bit before the extreme pain starts. If I’m not actually being punished, I’m a big fan of the “warm up” portion of a spanking.

I remember mentioning this at one of my shoots. Cindy looked at me like I was from Mars and said, “Your first spanking is your warm up.” Well, ok then.

Nevertheless, it is a fact that I can take far more pain far more gracefully if I have had a warmup. And, on this occasion I got one. He was very nice and started with light strokes and light implements. However, I noticed a fairly surprising trend. You see, I am afraid of some of the “thuddy” implements. This is mainly due to my stature (I worry about safety), and the fact that I am generally afraid of pain even though I need it. But, after I got warmed up I discovered that I did actually tolerated the thuddy stuff better.

What’s up with this? Really, by the end of the scene he was using his “lightest” and “least severe” leather paddle, yet this was the thing that brought me to tears, while the heavy paddles were actually halfway pleasant. I wish this was true without warmups too! It’s always nice to discover something new.

Apparently, shoes are a very traditional spanking implement. I was never aware of this when I was young and forming my core spanking fantasies, though. In fact, when I did finally hear about shoes being used for spanking I thought it was very strange. It seemed “weird” to me. That is a little bit ironic I guess considering that fetishes themselves are not exactly normal.

But, the deeper I got into the spanking community the more I started hearing about shoes. The more British material I read and watched the more I came to understand that shoes are a longstanding tradition in many homes and schools. In England they call it, “The Slipper” and it is usually depicted as a white canvas gym shoe. It took me a few years, but I did eventually get spanked with one. Let me tell you, they hurt. A lot. Not just because I’m a wimp either. It makes some sense to me in hindsight. After all, rubber toys are known for being particularly painful. What are shoe soles made of? Yeah. Rubber.

Other shoes I’ve been spanked with include hiking boots, flip flops and dress shoes. Some are definitely worse than others. Do you have experience with shoes? To be honest I can think of very few videos that depict this, other than a couple of flip flop scenes. Is this something that would be popular or not?

What is your favorite dynamic to see in a spanking video? Personally I love domestic scenes- husband, parental style, etc. However, I don’t get to do that nearly as much as school. I think there are several reasons for this, most of them legal. It’s tricky when you want to portray something domestic because the laws say that you can not portray a minor. Obviously this puts limits on the sort of language that can be used. Some sites ignore this, but larger operations can’t usually afford to.

I do enjoy school scenarios, too. I’m partial to the English style school scenes because of their formality, but American ones have their own flavor. The only thing I really dislike about American school scenes is that they often feature my least favorite implement: the school paddle.

What do you think the best way to ask for a spanking is? I know personally I hate asking outright most of the time. Yet, we can’t expect our partners to be mind readers right? One obvious solution is bratting. I think this is how many people handle it. After all, being a brat is a built in excuse for a punishment. I don’t love bratting either, though.

Something else I’ve tried to do is initiate role play. This is fun, but can lead to some funny mishaps if everyone isn’t on board with the role play. For instance, once I sent my boyfriend an email pretending to be a teacher. He misunderstood, and thought I’d given his email address to someone. He wasn’t happy, and the role play was aborted.

Do you have any creative ideas? I’ve asked this before, but I’m looking for something fun!

What other punishments do you like to throw in with spanking? One obvious example is corner time. I’ve certainly experienced my share of this. I’ve also experienced a variety of “time out” positions in addition, such as kneeling on uncomfortable surfaces and holding books out on my arms.

Another type of punishment I’ve experienced along with spanking is mouth soaping. This is particularly disgusting, and depending on the soap can have pretty long lasting consequences. Once I had my mouth washed out with dish soap (I know, not good) and my taste buds were not right for at least a week. It was as if the were burned. Granted, putting harsh chemicals in your mouth is not something I generally recommend. Yeah. Don’t try this at home.

Some more intimate punishments include anal discipline or spanking of the genitals. I’ve experienced the latter, and it’s definitely something I hope to avoid in the future. I’ve also heard about the use of nettles in punishments, both as a spanking implement and as an uncomfortable addition to a naughty girl’s panties.

Any other good ones?