I am always conflicted about whether I prefer to know how many strokes I am going to receive during a punishment or not. On the one hand, knowing you are going to get a very severe ten stroke paddling does allow you a little bit of room to “hold out” until the end as it were. I’m not sure I would feel the same way knowing I was going to get a very severe 100 strokes hairbrushing, though.
My boyfriend used to take a different approach. He never told me how many strokes I was going to get,but he always had me count out loud. In a way that was horrible because if we got to 11, I knew it would be at least 20, if 21 at least 30, etc. He hasn’t done this in a while though. I think he decided that my counting was helping me get through it.
There is also the question of whether a spanking should be short and swift, or drawn out with a slower buildup. This depends in large part on what you are aiming to achieve I suppose.
Tonight is one of those rare time when I’m in trouble for something real. It’s not such a big deal, but big enough that the boyfriend isn’t happy. I’m a little cranky about it myself. The theory is that we are going to take care of it here soon, but he does occasionally fall asleep or get too tired.
For my part,I never know what to make of that. If we don’t take care of it promptly I get a stay of execution, but I also have to wait . I am no good at waiting. It makes me well, cranky. I also have things to take care of myself tonight,and it’s hard to focus on anything else if I have a punishment looking over me!
So, wish me luck.I am sure you will all get to hear my whining on the other side. In the mean time I’m a bundle of nerves and I don’t have anything overly articulate to share with you.
Do you think spanking videos should include sexual play, or should they be straight punishment? I’ve personally always focused on non sexual aspects of spanking because I have a punishment fetish. Yet, there is no denying that I do have a sexual reaction to spanking. When I was young I just knew I felt funny. Now I can identify it.
Yet, when I see an actual sensual style scene it almost always turns me off. The things that push my buttons are always “straight” discipline. What I find interesting, though, is that this seems to be limited to videos and stories. In my real life I do enjoy a certain amount of sensuality with those I’m close to.
It’s really a paradox. So please tell me! Do you separate it,mix it, compartmentalize in some other way (like my real life vs.video distinction)? Whoever thought a fetish would be so complicated!
Everyone loves a good uniform. At least, I do. I have a uniform fetish that might be separate from my spanking fetish, although they often go together. Because of this I very much enjoy authenticity. Of course, authentic uniforms are harder to get your hands on than you might think. So I have often had to settle.
There is another camp of uniform lover, though. This is the “fetish uniform” rather than the uniform fetish. This includes clothing items in the category of extremely short school skirts, high healed Mary Jane shoes and tight slutty nurse uniforms and nun habits. These are meant to evoke the feeling of the uniform while corrupting them into something decidedly more “adult” and “alternative.”
So what’s your preference? Should a “schoolgirl” look like a school girl, or a porn star? Do you like the naughty nurse or do you want your scenes straight laced?
I’ve always had a hard time with this one. In my relationship my boyfriend expects me to tell on myself if I’ve done something that violates our agreements.It’s very rare for me to intentionally break any of our rules, but it’s also really hard to tell on myself. It’s a good thing I have a natural tendency toward a guilty conscience or it would be really tempting to keep things hidden.
Which brings me to another point. I know many people who feel that it should really be up to the Top to find reasons to punish, and the spankee shouldn’t have to furnish them. They figure if they aren’t caught then it’s no harm no foul. I think the extent to which these people are in “serious” disciplinary relationships differs a bit.
So, I hate to confess my crimes, but I also hate to keep them to myself. That’s a catch 22. What do you think?
Once upon a time I played a board game with my boyfriend. He really enjoys this board game and we played it often. We would invite friends over and make homemade salsa as well. Well, one night when we were getting ready to play this game, disaster struck. You see, I accidentally knocked over my water glass right on the board game! It was horrible. The evening was ruined, and it remained to be seen whether or not the game was ruined too.
As you can imagine, my boyfriend was not happy about this. He spanked me for it, although I strongly disagreed. My feeling was that I should not be punished for accidents, especially when I was already going to replace the board game. Since then there has been a rule that I am no longer allowed to have drinks on the same table as the board game. But my question is, are accidents really fair game to punish for? Do you think people should have to intentionally break a rule in order to be responsible?
What about repeat offenses? If an accident is understandable the first time,is it still understandable the third time? I don’t know. There is definitely a line where I think accidents go from normal to careless, but I’m not sure what it is.
My boyfriend is a meanie head. Yes, that’s right. He spanked me with a hairbrush today. It came about because I was stupid enough to point out that we have extra hairbrushes around this place. We have several spanking hairbrushes,most of which never get used. One in particular I’ve had for years but I’ve never been spanked with it. Ever. And it’s not useful for my kind of hair. So I suggested that we should throw it away. Apparently suggesting that spanking hairbrushes that have never been used be thrown away is the perfect way to get them used against you.
He called me into the kitchen and bent me over the counter. He told me to raise my skirt and then I stood there very exposed and embarrassed. The kitchen is an especially embarrassing choice because I always feel that the neighbors can see in the windows. They probably can’t but it does have a fish bowl effect. Anyway. Before I knew it he brought the brush down twice on my left side. I cried out and with my characteristic self control I jumped up. My boyfriend immediately pushed me back down and brought the hairbrush down again on the right side.
Then he put it down and walked away. Yeah. I was as disappointed as you are while also being relieved. I do have a bullseye mark on both sides. So, I guess he made them count.
What do you think the proper time is to administer a spanking? I love to read stories about bratty girls with bad attitudes. I’m sure you all know the kind we are talking about here. The spoiled princess who has never had to answer to anyone. Eventually she encounters someone who is not willing to put up with the crap anymore and she ends up over the knee for a good dose of the hairbrush until all the fight is gone.
But, does this really work? I can tell you that in my own life I’ve never responded well to a spanking when I was angry. Will I eventually stop fighting to end the pain? Sure. Will I actually come away feeling sorry and wanting to make any changes? No way. I’ll just be more angry at the Top for forcing the issue. In my relationship I almost always am given time to wait and think things over. I don’t always come around, but I’m always far more likely to be receptive if everyone involved is feeling calm about the situation.
So what do you think? Is it better to break through the walls or let the naughty girl break through them herself?
Over on the Happy Tails forum there was recently a very lively discussion about whether or not engaging in spanking play with someone other than your spouse is cheating or not. I’d be curious to know how you folks feel about it. I think you all know that I have a boyfriend because I write about him often. It may be disappointing to hear, but he isn’t Coach Daniels! So, it is probably obvious that I do engage in spanking play with people who are not my primary relationship.
I don’t consider this to be cheating for a specific reason: my boyfriend and I have a relationship that allows for this. He is fully aware of my actions (along with plenty of other internet viewers) and is comfortable with what I’m doing. We’ve discussed comfort levels etc and everyone is on the same page. I don’t lie to him. If it was something I had to lie about, you bet I would consider it cheating. That is the same reason I’ve made a decision to only play with other people who are able to be honest about their activities. If I know someone is lying to their wife or husband and sneaking off to events, I’m just not comfortable playing with them. This isn’t a judgment, it’s just where my personal boundaries are.
So what do you think? Is cheating caught up in an action or an understanding?
I’m just curious, do you have any models you would specifically like to see me with? I was thinking about other girls who have their own sites like Jessica and Brandi and how they often would work together. I haven’t really done much in the way of multi girl shoots, but I figure ya’ll must have some fantasies.
Of the girls I’ve been spanked with, Niki Flynn is high on my favorites list. I’ve also enjoyed working with Monica. I always thought it would have been fun to work with Sarah and/or Brandi. I think the types of scenes we could do would be really dependent on the personalities of the girls, and we could really do a wide variety of scenes.
I think it sounds fun! I’m just curious to hear your thoughts. How do you change things up?